For nearly thirty years, ArLynn Presser avoided leaving her neighborhood in Winnetka, Illinois, as she would experience debilitating anxiety and panic attacks when visiting public places and interacting with people outside her home.
But once she turned fifty, the romance writer decided that she was tired of living in isolation, and ready to face her greatest fear. On December 31, 2010 she started a blog at ArLynnPresser.WordPress.com and wrote in her first post, “My New Year’s resolution is to meet every Facebook friend I have.”
And so she spent 2011 visiting friends all over the world (and meeting some for the very first time). Her son Joseph accompanied her on the journey, recording video clips for ArLynn to share on her blog, which she’s been updating regularly since announcing her resolution on New Year’s Eve 2011. By the end of the year she had been to 13 different countries and met with 292 of the 325 friends she had as of January 1, 2011.
“Without WordPress.com, this project wouldn’t have happened,” she says. We set up an interview with ArLynn to learn more about the role that blogging played in her mission to face her agoraphobia. Here’s what she had to say:
Had you ever blogged before New Year’s Eve 2011? Why did you choose WordPress.com to share your resolution?
ArLynn: I had never blogged. I wasn’t sure I had anything to say. And I’m not sure blogging necessarily was about speaking to an audience so much as me creating a record of my experience. I chose WordPress.com because it was easy to use and allowed for customization.
What role did your blog play in the project?
ArLynn: It was absolutely vital. It gave me the discipline to say, “I will blog about every friend and publish posts nearly every day.” So that kept me moving forward. I could have made a diary of the project using Facebook or Twitter, but that would not have allowed for the kind of reflection that comes with blogging. A blog requires me to think about what I’ve done, what I’m going to do, and what I’m going to write.
How did it feel to put yourself “out there” on your blog for the world to see? What was the actual writing process like?
ArLynn: It took me all day today just to figure out how to encapsulate my experience with Facebook friend #298. I like to bring out the best parts in people I meet so I really choose my words carefully. As for putting myself out in the world, I think the only thing we can do is embrace being vulnerable and hopelessly flawed. I’ve learned to say, “Sure, I’m a total screw-up, but I accept it. If you want to read about it, fine by me.” I’m now fifty-one years old so it’s time for me to be liberated from worrying about what others think of me.
What advice do you have for people who are thinking about using a WordPress.com blog as a tool to help them achieve their goals?
ArLynn: I truly believe that if something doesn’t at first appear to be impossible then it’s not worth doing. I advise people to blog every day or nearly every day. It won’t just push you to reach your goal, it will completely overtake you. Last year changed me completely.
Do you still consider yourself agoraphobic?
ArLynn: Yes, but it’s gotten easier for me to leave the house and travel. I used to be terrified of getting on planes, and sometimes just thinking about leaving the house could induce a panic attack.
What are you up to now?
ArLynn: This year, I continue to travel and see friends, but I am focusing more on meeting those who have trouble getting out from behind their computers, whether because of agoraphobia, post-traumatic stress disorder, or other anxiety disorders. You can find out more by checking out my blog at ArLynnPresser.WordPress.com.
Thanks for sharing your story, ArLynn!
good story…
I really like it…
When we were kids and wanted to sleep in late on a Saturday my mother would charge into the room throw open the curtains and say quite loudly
” The suns shining now go somewhere, do something and be someone”
Sounds to me like you are doing just that. Congrats.
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This is so inspiring!!!
Amazing. You made me speechless.
good for Arlynn it takes a lot of courage to face your fears
Love her blog. I could relate it to myself and need to get out of my shell and meet all my friends from FB, twitter and oceans apart. thanks for sharing.
Wow, what a hefty New Year’s Resolution. I can’t even stick to a new year’s diet.
Thanks for sharing your story
Now, I want a new year’s resolution! 😀
Inspires me to finish up my WordPress blog site and get to writing. Thank you for your honesty and courage in facing your fear because it helps me to face my own too.
ArLynne, congratulations on your trip around the world. I have a form of agoraphobia except I can leave the house to go to the doctors offices and pharmaceutical pick up drive through places. I’m happy you have the funds to get out and visit your friends. I would just have loved to be a part of your project. May the goddesses and gods look over you and that you suffer from agoraphobia no more. Bright blessings. Byrony.
What a strong person! and what a cool idea!
So inspiring! Thank you so much for sharing this. 🙂
what a fantastic story
What a great inspiration for those paralyzed by fear. Love this!!!
Very inspiring! I think a lot of wordpress users are using their blogs to help them overcome challenges in life. I know I am! I hope I find as much success. Congrats ArLynn!
Very nice story and a great overcome… Congratulations to ArLynn! And thanks to you now I have her blog in my favorites!
I hope that you will follow and get in contact with Marilyn Mendoza who has the same condition. She just finished a book tour with her first book. She can be found on facebook or on her blog site. I agree that it is important to blog daily if possible. Thanks for sharing.
… always need more stories like this !
Congratulation. I have problems with panic attacks!
A very inspiring story !! Admire this one 🙂 Cheers
Congrats! You are an inspiration to all of us 🙂
I too have suffered from bouts of agoraphobia
and understand all to well the struggle. Thank you for sharing your story.
Very inspirational! I hope to see more from ArLynn. She has a great story and I hope her blog will be able to help others with similar issues.
Thank you, ArLynn, for sharing 🙂
Wonderful! Amazing, the power of the blogging community to help someone stick to their goals and share them with the world!
Very compelling.
Thanks!
Thank you for sharing your inspirational story 🙂
What an amazing and inspiring story… Thnak you Erica for sharing Arlyn with us!
Thanks for the share !
My late mother-in-law wrestled with this issue for years. Good job spotlighting such an important issue.
I struggle with agoraphobia as well. Its an unplesant and debilitating disease. Thanks for stepping up and sharing about this difficult illness. Best of luck to you and keep up the good work. And remember – we can overcome our panic and it does not control us!
Great stuff – really enjoyed reading about this wonderful idea. Inspirational!
An inspiryng story!
As an agoraphobic myself, I find your story very inspiring. All the best to you.
Thanks for your courage both to overcome your agoraphobia and to share your story!
This is such an inspiring story!
Inspiring!!
This is an incredible story ArLynn, very inspiring. “Embrace being vulnerable and hopelessly flawed” – FANTASTIC!
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Congratulations on this amazing watershed experience. Words can’t do justice to how impressed I am.
Inspiring, but is it true? An agoraphobic picks up one day and travels the world meeting people she’s never met before based on a New Year’s resolution? The very next day? Really? Sorry, but it sounds more like a gimmick for a blog than inspiration to me.
Awesome story!
This is truely an amazing story. I can’t imagine what the woman was going through the first time she left the comfort of her own neighborhood.
Very compelling. Thanks!
Amazing piece you wrote. Do you work for a newspaper/magazine/news site? Congratulations on the fresh press.
Wonderful way to take control of ones life path! I love reading about inspired and inspiring people taking on their ‘soul-life lessons’ with such care and determination! Thank you for sharing..
Inspiring story, keep on posting. You doing great.
An inspirational story. Thank you. Writing blogs can be very thoughtful and that comes across in these journal like entries.
thank you for sharing the story of ArLynn…so close to my story
Erica, this is a great work
Cool! Love ArLynn’s idea to meet all her facebook friends! If I win the lottery I’ll go for it!
Very inspiring, I can’t imagine how difficult it must be to deal with Agoraphobia. Overcoming it must have taken a lot of courage and dedication. I have developed a fear of flying over the years, and get extremely anxious when I’m traveling. After reading your blog, I now feel hopeful that one day I will overcome my fear as well. I’m happy to read about your impressive experiences around the world. Thank you for sharing your journey!
Great!! Thank you very much.
amazing, very Inspiring story…. thanks
I wish my so-called fiancé could take that kind of initiative on curing his own severe agoraphobia. Maybe someday he’ll be at the point you got to, where he realizes he’s doing himself more harm than good by obediently giving into his fears and deliberately avoiding so many situations.
I heard this story before I love this woman
This story really points out the importance of the WordPress family to many, especially to me. It has become an important part of my day in sharing my spiritually centered poetry. Over the years, the poetry itself has rendered me the opportunity to serve the “Homeless cause in Texas” through the sale of my poetry books and various major downloads on the internet: adding to that has also been my personal success in an insurance agency of twenty eight years in McKinney, Texas. Through the WordPress family, I have learned from feedback on my own blog, as well as the blogs of others, that truly we are not alone. I am not a social network kind of guy. I do not do Facebook for many reasons, one mainly being the quality of sharing and the great group of people that WordPress renders me access to, versus my past experience with these other networks. My greatest pride in all of this has been a bronze plaque in the New Samartian Inn of McKinney, Texas, rendering recognition to the role of a major remodeling of the only homeless shelter for Collin County, Texas. In 2005, my wife and I took on, in personal expense and overseeing, a major part of the remodeling of this homeless shelter in McKinney, Texas. Today, it houses over 150 individuals daily, with a long waiting list. The Inn is also considered to be one of the most beautiful homeless shelters in the State of Texas. Thank you my WordPress family for all the blessings that have come my way through the WordPress family and having the ability to pass my own blessings on to others.
Congrats… It is said, “Internal Demons are the hardest to conquer,” and you did that…
What a wonderful story. I’m sure people tackling a wide range of issues will take inspiration from it.
nice story 🙂 i’m realy like
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Inspirational. Thanks for being so brave to share ur personal experiences.
Shaz.
This is a great story. Love how writing, which is usually such a solitary effort, had a hand in expanding your world. Very inspiring.
Well, if it helps/helped her maybe it will help me overcome my fear of elevators…somehow.
it takes courage to overcome fear. good thing that she was that courageous, of course it’s never easy to be a loner. “no man is an island” indeed. 🙂
Hard to believe but I suffered for many years with that same problem. It affected my on air performance as well as my private life until I got to the point where I fought back. Back in my day 60′ 70’s agoraphobia was not defined. The simple treatment given by doctors was to medicate, medicate, medicate and seek therapy including hypnosis. None of which worked. I finally stumbled upon the most simplest of ways to combat my problem. Mind over matter. And it worked for me. The simple plan….whenever I found myself in a situation that induced a panic attack I would immediately direct my thoughts to something else. For instance, if I had a panic attack in a car I had to find a way to over ride that attack. So, I’d do something to distract my panic feelings by rolling down the window, turning up the radio and surfing the stations, pinching myself or thinking of something else. And it worked. I have overcome, for the most part, my agoraphobia by using that method. Yes, every so often I get one of those rare panic attacks, but I still am able to manage it. I encourage anyone with agoraphobia to at least try this. Can’t hurt. As some of you know, I too write a daily blog with humor to make up for the years I couldn’t perform on the air due to agoraphobia problems. Humor also helps. Good luck ArLynn and all others who who battle this problem and fight back.
a very inspiring story especially to those who share the same experience, like me.
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Really inspiring.. People can overcome anything if only they choose to..
Very inspiring indeed. I too started blogging to help keep me sane through a really nasty divorce (which unfortunately is still ongoing). I can relate to the feeling of wanting to just withdraw from the world…. The fear of anxiety attacks. It’s not the easiest thing to do, to just put yourself out there for the world to see.. But sometimes it’s the only thing you can do..
Inspirational – thank you for sharing this. It must have taken massive amounts of courage to start that process, and I’m reblogging if that’s OK. I’m primarily a social phobic, but agoraphobia has featured additionally often in my life so far, so I’m taking quite a lot from this personally – and I want the world to know how brave you are so I’m sharing this everywhere I can! Thank you again.
I’ve been there. As someone stated earlier…it takes great courage…and for me faith, prayer and friends who understood. My situation was brought on by an hormonal imbalance and I am grateful for herbal remedies…encouragement and prayers answered. All the best in the years to come!
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How inspiring…Thank you for sharing.
Great Job! I am stuggling right now with my agoraphobia, panic attacks, anxity and depression and just reading that you got through it is an ispration to me to get out and try to overcome these myself.
I want to.commend you on the courage it must have taken to do what you did. I’m proud of you.
awesome! wishing you all the best ! anything is possible if you truly believe in yourself and have faith!
Thank you all for making me learn more.
Thanks 🙂
ArLyn, what a wonderful story. Congratulations! Your story is fairly typical of others involved in this life-excluding problem. I too moved on after decades of being trapped in misery, although throughout this period I never quite lost a sense of humour, a humour that I now turn into something resembling literature. . Please continue grow in strength, live YOUR life. I think you are a remarkable lady.Kind regards, Leonard.
it’s a great story…… really
Good job
Does any one here know what it fell like to have
an attach that keep you doing normal activity?
it take a lot of courage just to share
really great experience. i wish i could overcome mine.
Great! Wonderful!
So cool and inspiring!
I realize how difficult agoraphobia and other similar ‘soul’ problems are – it’s hard to make the decision about going out, but once you decide to change the situation your life gets better than ever. You become so strong, you couldn’t be stronger than that – congratulations on your courage!
This is a truly interesting story! Thanks so much for posting!
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Another positive story!
Nice, compelling story. Keep plugging ahead!
Thanks 🙂
Great story. I love the way she accepts being a screw up, regardless of what people think.
An incredible story and hopeful inspiration for us all to overcome the barriers we face. Her answers are so truthful and revealing about the complexities within all of us, thanks in large part to your questions and warmth expressed to her, I’m sure. Wow. Simply touching. Thank you for sharing. 😀
God bless her
i am so stunned and surprised at how many people have contacted me or posted here or (better even!) become my friend on facebook. i am so blessed! i am getting a signal from the ethersphere that i have to settle down for a moment (my car windshield has blown out and my credit card is maxed out so no travel for a few weeks) but i am determined and if ANY of my friends or ANYBODY who reads of me feels there is some way that i can help them be the fishermen (and women) of their own life journeys, all i need is an email at apresser@hotmail.com — much gratitude!!!!
oh, and if anybody knows how i can lose the eight pounds i gained with this new years resolution, start talking!!!!!
It the best, This is a really inspiring story!
THanks for sharing, MUCH!!
THere should be more posts as these!!!!
Cheers!
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An interesting read. Very good.
Its great to know that!
Bravo ArLynn! For your next step, I recommend horses and dogs. I truly believe the love of animals fills life with peace, joy and meaning. Best to you!
Amazing. That’s all I can say about it. Inspiring!