How to block abusive stalkers?
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It’s interesting that I should stumble across this discussion.
My father is/was a carpenter by trade and I have an interest in Woodworking, tools, and axes, from him. I’ve tried my hand at quite a few woodworking projects alone and with my father including anything from hand carved items to building timber frame houses. I enjoy working with wood, although I wouldn’t say I’m “highly skilled” like Ernest Dubious, my focus ended up being more in the computing arena.
I don’t talk about woodworking on my blog, because I simply haven’t done any for years and it’s not what I’m presently concentrating on.
I have liked several articles on axework.wordpress.com, because I found them enlightening and interesting. I don’t always have time to make long detailed comments on other people’s blogs, so often just leave a like, as do many people that visit and follow my blogs, that’s normal?
For some reason, out of the blue, the blog owner contacted me to request I remove my following from his blog. He didn’t give any substantial reason why, nor did he state that I was annoying him (or that he thought I was “stalking” him). I contacted him almost immediately and have removed my following as he requested.
His comment wasn’t exactly friendly or what I’d expect in the WordPress.com community. Nor have I ever been asked to unfollow someone’s blog before. Seems to be quite odd behaviour really, for someone in our community, which I’ve found to be incredibly positive and friendly.
To be described as a “persistent annoyance” or “abusive stalker” is hardly appropriate or reasonable and could be construed as misrepresentation, or worse. I don’t at present want to pursue the matter further, as I don’t think the blog owner is acting in bad faith. If he doesn’t like me for whatever reason, then no problem, it’s not a problem for me.
In fact from what I’ve read here, it seems more a matter of ignorance in controlling how he wants likes and comments managed on the part of the blog owner, that I’ve inadvertently been blamed for and I can’t really stay annoyed about that. We’re all learning all the time after all.
So, I am happy to un-like any articles on the workingwithaxes blog if that is what the owner wishes, and happy not to have anything to do with his blog again. I would request that you remove my IP address from this public article, it’s not really good etiquette to publish it in the first place. I have not published his email address or IP address either, and have no intention of doing so.
If possible please could you send me a complete list of links so that I can go through the un-liking process, I don’t want to leave anything out and want to correct “the issue” for him fully.
I am sorry for any inconvenience, but as I’ve explained, I acted in good faith with a genuine interest in liking his blog and content there. I like being part of the WordPress community and blogging here, I enjoy helping people and sharing what I’m knowledgeable about, and have made many friends. So I don’t enjoy having my name and reputation needlessly publicly tarnished like this, nor really enjoy finding out about it by accident on a google search.
Sincerely
Don Charisma
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Don’t worry Don. It is just new bloggers that don’t understand how a blog works or how to manage one.
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I’ve spoken to a few friends about this. Our conclusion – fabrication of untruths in order to try to defame me, by a LONE MISINFORMED TROLL, actually has put me in a good light boosting my reputation. Anyone that knows me, knows that accusing me of being a persistent annoyance or abusive stalker, is just laughable, I’m quite the opposite. Nice try Ernest, but sorry my friend, an utter failure. Thanks for giving us a good laugh:)
In reality, I’m far too busy enjoying myself blogging to be causing annoyance for others, it’s just such a ridiculous suggestion I can hardly believe it, nor can my friends.
I have worked very hard to produce positive, interesting content on my blog, which has been viewed and liked by thousands of people. A WordPress blogger said this about my blog yesterday – “Smart, inventive, bold, timely, compassionate, and very helpful.”. Another said – “I would describe it as a blog that has something for everyone. Very innovative. The blog has style! “
I’m a positive influence on WordPress and in my life, to my friends and loved ones. People that treat me with respect get respect back. In contrast, a troll who’ll make stuff up to try to bully me publicly, will find that I will stand up for myself. Trolls and other negative people will never make me give up on my dreams, as I posted here recently – http://doncharisma.org/2013/10/03/how-to-make-your-dreams-come-true-fathers-advice-to-his-son-2
It’s a great community here, just awesome, so don’t let the spammers and the trolls get you down!
Happy blogging :)
Sincerely
Don Charisma & Don Charisma
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