karenvelen
karenvelen
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Like this blog page - I'm under construction. I'll start with my New Year 2009:
The New Year is an exciting time. It symbolizes transformation and starting new. It's a time when you can let go of the old, shed your past and begin again. My New Year began last October.
I decided then to set aspirations that came from my heart and what I valued the most. My resolutions have been more process-oriented, rather than goal-oriented. They focus not on achieving a specific goal by a specific date, but on making subtle and important shifts in how I am living in each moment. Some of my resolutions have been "Treat everyone I meet with kindness," "Respond to anger with compassion," , "Forgive and let go", "Honor and respect my body".
Their vagueness is their greatest asset, because instead of setting a concrete milestone, they provide a gentle guiding light that keeps me headed in the right direction as I make my way forward to becoming better at being who I am.
For me, serenity began when I learned to distinguish between those things that I could change and those I could not. When I admitted that there were people, places, things, and situations over which I was totally powerless, those things began to lose their power over me. I learned that everyone has the right to make their own mistakes, and learn from them - without my interference, judgment, or assistance!
The key to my serenity is acceptance. But "acceptance" does not mean that I have to like it, condone it, or even ignore it. What it does mean is I am powerless to do anything about it... and I have to accept that fact. Nor does it mean that I have to accept "unacceptable behavior." Today I have choices. I no longer have to accept abuse in any form. I can choose to walk away, even if it means stepping out into the unknown. I no longer have to fear "change" or the unknown. I can merely accept it as part of the journey. I spent years trying to change things in my life over which I was powerless, but did not know it. I threatened, scolded, manipulated, coerced, pleaded, begged, pouted, bribed and generally tried everything I could to make the situation better - only to watch as things always got progressively worse.
I spent so much time trying to change the things I could not change, it never once occurred to me to simply accept them as they were.
Now when things in my life are not going the way I planned them, or downright bad things happen, I can remind myself that whatever is going on is not happening by accident. There's a reason for it and it is not always meant for me to know what that reason is. That change in attitude has been the key to happiness for me.
So along with my spiritual aspirations I have a few "concrete" ones, over the past few months I have lost weight, I have become a non-smoker, and I'm rediscovering my spiritual persona.
Namasté
The process of discovering who I really am begins with knowing who I really don't want to be
When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself
Three things cannot long be hidden the sun, the moon, and the truth.
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